By: Sarah Grace Powers – Confluence Daily is your daily news source for women in the know.
How do YOU spend the first hour of your morning?
Is it a flurry of racing around to get yourself together and gather everything you need before dashing out the door to work? Or, perhaps you grab your phone, iPad or computer and check your email as soon as your eyes flutter open?
If you’re nodding in recognition, I’ve got one question: how’s that working out for you?
I only ask because I’ve been there – and it took me close to 50 years to figure out that the disconnection of my scattered morning routine reached into my whole day.
I’m now finally getting it: It’s all about intention.
Those first moments of your morning are a time when you can set an intention and touch in with your essential self, that core of your being that is so much greater than the every day, ego-driven you.
I’ve come to realize how profoundly this can affect my whole day, and ultimately my whole life. A morning ritual, created with intention, will take you toward your dreams.
We all have some sort of morning ritual, whether it’s intentional or not. Even that bathroom time upon awakening is a ritual of sorts. Brushing your teeth can be a ritual, as can making your coffee or tea.
These practices are all lovely and can enhance your life. But they may not be the sort of rituals that change your life
A ritual is different than a routine. While both are important, a ritual is more of a celebration and a devotion. An acknowledgment of your own connection to the sacred and to that great well of creativity that we all spring from. Rituals can be practiced in groups as well as solo, but generally, your morning ritual is a practice just for you.
Now I know what you might be thinking. Are you kidding? How can I add one more thing into my already packed day?
And yes, I hear where you’re coming from. I have so been there. I’m just asking you to suspend your judgment and disbelief a few minutes and hear me out.
There’s no better time than right now to create a ritual to start your own day with intention. In this age of smart phones, and more upsetting news flashes coming in fast and furious, it’s easier than ever for your day to get completely thrown off.
You can combat that potential derailment of your day, and care for your own heart, with a devotional morning practice, no matter how short or simple.
This one simple addition to my day has really and truly changed my life. It’s catalyzed breakthroughs that I once wondered would ever be possible.
It might do the same for you.
What’s A Morning Ritual?
Your morning ritual doesn’t have to be some sort of solemn, spiritual practice – although by all means it can be if that’s what calls to you. This isn’t about the actual content of what you choose to do. The magic happens with ritual when it is practiced with intention and repetition.
Repeating any sort of intentional practice each morning can connect you with the infinity that we are all a part of, releasing you temporarily from the endless whine of your ego brain. And, on a more mundane level, it allows you to start your day with the experience of feeling grounded; setting yourself up to more easily handle whatever life brings your way.
It can be as short as two minutes or as long as a full hour. As simple as closing your eyes and grounding to the earth, or as complex as an involved meditation and yoga routine.
Your ritual can be done in stillness or in movement, inside or outside, in silence or in song.
Your world, your choice, your ritual.
A morning ritual is akin to the sacred practice in eastern spiritualities known as puja. Although the dictionary defines this word as “a Hindu practice of the worship of a particular god,” I believe it refers to the act of showing reverence to the divine, a practice of devotion.
Puja is used to describe many forms of devotion. And the thing about it is there’s no right way to do it; there’s only what’s right for you.
Whether you believe in God, Goddess, the Universe, some other sort of higher power – or none at all, your puja connects you each day with that divinity that resides in all beings and in all things.
It’s ideal to do your morning ritual right after awakening – but let’s face it, that doesn’t work for all of us. Kids might be up earlier than you, or other demands might claim your time. If you must wait an hour before you get those 15 minutes of you time, so be it. It’s still so worth it to build this habit.
Finding My Own Morning Ritual
As I mentioned, it took me a while to get here. About seven years ago, shortly after turning 50 I finally incorporated a morning practice into my day. And, sure I miss some days – and that’s okay. The next day I can Begin Again.
Since I’d had so much resistance to getting going, I took the baby step approach. I decided that I was going to meditate for just five minutes a day. I challenged myself to try this for a month and see what happened. And I committed to meditating BEFORE I turned on the computer, checked email or otherwise got caught up in daily demands.
For me, what made this more pleasurable – and more like a ritual – was to build some other fun stuff into it. So I’d start by lighting my special candle and smudging myself with some white sage –a plant used by Native Americans to clear psychic energy. Then I’d set a timer for the five minutes and just practice that stillness. Afterward, I pulled three Angel Cards for the day and wrote a page or so in my journal.
Simple, sweet, and it worked for me. I didn’t hold myself to some unattainable goal of a 20-minute meditation twice a day or something. Soon I was able to up the meditation time to 10 minutes.
The activities I built around this mediation time were familiar and comforting to me – and they were things that I sometimes ‘forgot’ to do for myself in the hustle bustle of daily life. Setting some intentional time aside each morning to do this has very subtly, over time, made huge differences in my life and in the decisions I make.
Even though my monkey mind often babbles away during those 10 minutes, somehow the devotion and the focus has, over time, stripped away various illusions that said monkey mind had set up inside me.
Since then, I’ve experimented with different intentional ways to start my morning. Nowadays I like to start my day with some EFT Tapping even before the meditation. Again, what I do doesn’t matter as much as the spirit and intention behind it.
Ideas For Your Morning Ritual
As I said, there are as many sorts of rituals as there are unique fingerprints.
Your ideal morning ritual consists of things that especially delight YOU. The only ‘rule’ that I suggest – and of course it’s just a suggestion – is to try to fit in your ritual before engaging in activities that drag you into the day.
Some people like to exercise as their morning ritual. Or to get outside for a walk. Devoting the time for prayer, singing, chanting, or saying mantras works for others. Simply lighting a candle and creating a little-sacred space for a few minutes is a ritual.
If, like me, you lean towards the woo-woo, incense, candles, and anointing with oils can set the tone for your day.
Dancing is an invigorating and empowering morning ritual. Journaling or writing can ground you and focus your intention for your day. In her seminal book The Artists Way, Julia Cameron describes a practice called Morning Pages – and thousands upon thousands of people use this practice as a daily ritual to stimulate their creativity – no matter what medium they work in.
Morning Pages, as described by Cameron, involves keeping a notebook right by your bed, and writing three full pages of stream of consciousness right after you open your eyes. It’s basically like freewriting, and it’s writing that no one ever sees but you. Anything goes – whining, dreaming, gibberish. It’s just a way to free up your creative spirit, and so many people swear by this practice.
Another great morning ritual – particularly if you’re pressed for time is to do a simple and short grounding exercise, connecting yourself with the earth before you begin your day.
Okay, this is all well and good, but here’s the thing: practicing or not practicing a ritual such as this is definitely not another excuse to beat yourself up!
Do it if you are called to, don’t if you are not. But whatever you do, please don’t spend any time thinking that nasty ‘should’ word!!
Remember too that if you get a sweet little ritual going and then you get derailed – maybe family comes to town, or you go traveling and your routine gets disrupted. Or maybe you just forget and or get distracted for a few days – or weeks, or months. NO BIG DEAL!
All you do is begin again. This is all about you and nurturing and caring for yourself! All too often when we fall off the wagon with a new healthy practice, we decide ‘that’s it, I blew it.” Guess I can’t do that. So, so not serving! Every present moment is a point of power, so who cares what you did or didn’t do yesterday or last week? Who cares if you will follow through tomorrow or the next day? Do it now if you want to do it.
Okay, so I won’t lie, there is one thing that really really REALLY sucks about all of this (at least for me), And its having to get up that much earlier to allow that ritual time. But the psychic spaciousness it creates is worth it many times over. I believe it even makes up for 15-30 minutes less sleep (but don’t push this too far! )
This is one of those ‘healthy’ practices that can become just as addictive as potato chips or your favorite TV show. You start to feel like something’s missing if you skip it.
Your morning ritual can make all the difference in how you show up to your day, to others and most of all for yourself.
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Sarah Grace Powers is a certified life coach and EFT Practitioner. She is a ‘dream resuscitator’, helping clients rediscover their passions and reinvent themselves no matter what their age or circumstance. In her previous career she owned and operated an herb shop and has practiced holistic living for over three decades. Find her at sarahgracecoach.com