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A Full Moon Ritual for Love

Reading Time: 3 minutesRitual is powered by intention. And intention gets amplified by focused attention and emotion. What we focus on expands, and our feelings and emotions are powerful magnifiers for energy.

A ritual is different from a habit. I’ve often referred to my beloved bedtime tea drinking as part of my “nighttime ritual” – and certainly, you can celebrate tea drinking with ritual – in fact, there are whole ceremonies for tea drinking. However, my own nighttime tea drinking is more of a habit than a ritual. However, if I bring intention into the mix, I’m leaning towards ritual because a ritual is imbued with intention.

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I was groomed as a teenager – here’s what it looked like.

Reading Time: 5 minutesWith all of the talk surrounding R. Kelly (and let’s not forget that whole Drake and Millie Bobby Brown thing), I wanted to share my own story of being groomed. It isn’t cinematic and it wasn’t overt, but it happened. Luckily I was unharmed, but what I remember most that it felt like a natural step towards adulthood. I thought to myself, what teenage girl doesn’t have a dalliance – however small – with an older man? Looking back now I see that this feeling – that it’s normal, that it’s part of growing up – is the danger. Because not only is it perceived by many girls as normal, it’s a dream come true.

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My Teen Daughter Has Been Sexting an Adult – I Don’t Know What To Do

Reading Time: 3 minutesIf you have any thoughts about pursuing criminal charges or investigation, you absolutely must, as awkward or painful as it might be, take screenshots of every piece of conversation between he and your daughter, and your message to him afterward. Save those in a folder and put them away, because there might be details that can vastly change the color of what was going on in this one specific case.

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Top Five Myths About A Breakup

The reality of it is, almost everyone one of us will go through a breakup, probably many of them. Very few of us spend our lives with our first love. It’s an inevitable part of life.

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A Tall Order For Adults Who Care About Bullied Kids

Reading Time: 2 minutesIf we want kids to feel good about themselves, feel like they matter and know they’re enough, then we’re going to have to step up and become MAJOR influencers in their lives. 

How do we do it? We make our message louder and clearer than the messages kids receive through social media and their peers.

Not easy. But if we want our kids to feel the kind of confidence that stands firm in the face of bullies, then this is our work.

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Kids Bullying Kids: A Mirror Image of Daily Adult Life

Reading Time: 2 minutesThe mistreatment kids encounter through bullying can be infuriating and sad. 

It’s also a mirror image of daily adult life.

So let’s prepare them.

Even eternal optimists know that pretending we’ll ever be able to end bullying is a gross misconception. 

A much wiser use of our time would be helping kids respectfully thrive amidst it.

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Ten Things Healthy Men Look for in a Woman

Reading Time: 8 minutesWomen often mistakenly take their cues from advertising and media when they are trying to figure out what a man wants in a woman. And making that mistake can lend itself to some painful and costly outcomes. What I’ve learned from working with men over the years is there are more good guys out there than most women tend to believe. The assholes and takers get a lot of airtime and take up a lot of our attention. However, at the end of the day, most men are fundamentally good at heart and want to do what’s right by the women they love. 

Here are ten things I’ve learned about men, love, and romance after more than a decade of talking to men about women:

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When A Bully Says “I Was Only Kidding”

Reading Time: 2 minutesPeople who bully aren’t bad people. They just learned a way of getting things they want… like power, friends, money, laughs… by doing things that hurt other people. They don’t necessarily intend to hurt others, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen.

It’s not our job to teach bullies how their actions affect other people. But for our own good, we ARE responsible for understanding their behavior as a demonstration of THEIR weaknesses, not ours.

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Reading Time: 5 minutesHave you ever looked back at recent journal entries only to realize that all of the optimistic goals you wrote down never made it off the page?

Maybe you said you were going to lose 20 pounds and actually ended up gaining five.

Or perhaps you were going to write the Great American Novel, but instead only wrote two blog post drafts, neither of which you ended up posting.

You’re not alone. A lot of well-meaning individuals find themselves in similar circumstances.

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Relationship Insurance

Reading Time: 4 minutes I’m not saying appreciation alone will save a marriage that’s in critical condition. It might, it might not. However, appreciation and gratitude will prevent a relationship from ending up on life support almost every time.

Appreciation is relationship insurance.

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How to Bring Up Masturbation in a Relationship?

Reading Time: 2 minutesSome people have a very difficult (impossible) time of talking about anything sexual; this is often shaped by how their family talks about bodies, sexual health or consent in the household. Families who tend to be deeply religious often talk about sex less, based on what I hear from my friends and clients. And people who feel negatively about sex are much less likely to use birth control successfully, discuss their pleasure with a partner, or masturbate, according to a study published in The Journal of Sex Research.

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