Reading Time: 4 minutes Stress is one of the biggest inhibitors of arousal, probably thanks to evolution. If an animal (or human) is trying to survive and is primarily focused on those struggles, it makes sense that breeding, mating, or sex is not as important.
Reading Time: 5 minutes As a longtime public, stripper, I often receive contact from other women in the adult industries who are navigating dating and sex work and experiencing jealousy from their partners. What follows is two examples of folks who recently wrote to me and feeling unsupported and invalidated by their boyfriends.
Reading Time: 4 minutes A key to understanding the intersection of sex and disability is understanding disability theory. Disability theory is complex and nuanced, but essentially: all disabled people are different, our needs are different, our needs deserve to be met, and that we are not a burden. The onus for unlearning ableism, such as unfavorable conceptions, or treatment of disabled people is on abled people.”
Reading Time: 2 minutes Being around other people can stimulate cortisol production for several reasons. It could be due to stress or worry about being judged (what if I make a funny face?), if you’re an introvert, or if you have traumatic memories that are associated with man partners or sexual play.
Reading Time: 3 minutes With the recent Hollywood film “Hustlers” providing a glamorized look at some types of sex work and stripping there are undoubtedly many folks of different genders who are venturing into strip clubs for the first time, whether it’s to work or watch.
Reading Time: 8 minutes Dr. Evelin Dacker has been a healthcare provider for twenty-four years, and she has some big plans for the future of sexual health in America. Today, this sex-positive doc with a TEDx talk tells us why herpes is the new chicken pox, how sex-workers are healers, and why your doctor might be motivated to overprescribe.
Reading Time: 3 minutes Rape roleplay isn’t inherently bad or good, but I’m curious about your partner’s interest in it, and his role in it.
When children play games it’s not unusual for them to sometimes choose the “villain” role, because role play is a safe(r) way to experience something new, but it’s disconcerting and suggests a power imbalance if he pressures you to proceed with this, especially if he knows that you’ve been hurt by a rapist in real life.
My boyfriend’s best friend just started dating a woman who openly calls herself a swinger – It makes me nervous
Reading Time: 2 minutes Non-monogamous people who engage ethically and with good intentions tend to have better communication skills regarding sex and consent, and if you’d like to learn more about how people manage these interactions, I’d read “The Ethical Slut” 3rd edition by Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton, or More Than Two by Rickert and Veaux. Opening Up by Tristan Taormino is also a great book.
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Reading Time: 3 minutes If you have any thoughts about pursuing criminal charges or investigation, you absolutely must, as awkward or painful as it might be, take screenshots of every piece of conversation between he and your daughter, and your message to him afterward. Save those in a folder and put them away, because there might be details that can vastly change the color of what was going on in this one specific case.