marriage

Reading Time: 4 minutes A relationship in balance between two healthy balanced partners works like this:

The man pours all of energy and attention into his mate. He adores her. He treasures her. He cares for her and attends to her needs. He protects her. He provides for her on many different levels, and I’m not just talking financially. More or less, without question, he worships her. His life becomes an active outpouring of his adoration – for her.

And what unfolds from that place of absolute adoration is a thing of beauty, because fueled by his love, that woman blossoms. She thrives. Most importantly she has the sustained energy it takes to create a beautiful and joyful shared life.

Reading Time: 5 minutes Life will make you feel like a victim. It will happen to you unless you get yourself in the driver’s seat and stay grounded in what really matters. A healthy marriage isn’t hard work – that’s a myth. A sick relationship will be the hardest work you’ll ever have to do.

So, a word to the wise might be, feed yourself and your marriage before starvation sets in.

Reading Time: 2 minutes Personally, I do not want to become half of some amalgamated union. I want to feel desire and devotion for my beloved. Not obligation and or responsibility. That said, I cannot desire him, if I honestly see him as an extension of myself. A relationship is bigger when two people bring their whole selves to it and breath fresh air through, when the space they take up forces the relationship to expand. Relationships do not feed themselves.

People need their own time, hobbies, friends, and money. They need to flourish and grow alone so the relationship itself doesn’t stagnate. I believe one of the most accurate measurements of a healthy relationship is how much two people encourage each other to grow individually. Yes, that takes courage, but the pay off personally is huge, so it’s both altruistic and selfish at the same time.