5 Steps Towards Enlightenment When Love and Light Aren’t Cutting It
By: Lisa M. Hayes – Confluence Daily is your daily news source for women in the know.
1. Living well is the best revenge.
Yeah, I know when someone does you wrong it’s natural to focus on the dirty bastard who did it. However, really, does that POS deserve another ounce of your attention?
No. No, they do not.
Seriously, though, if you really want to piss ’em off, stay in your own lane.
If you want revenge, that’s a dish best served with envy. It’s time to channel your inner-Oprah and live your best damn life.
Make them wonder how it is you’re rocking your life without them.
Make them wonder if you even remember their phone number.
Make them wonder why they’re all alone for Netflix and chill while you’re out living life in Dolby Surround Sound and Technicolor.
That’ll make them sorry they ever crossed paths with someone who is way better off without them.
2. Being unhappy in a Mercedes is better than being unhappy on the bus. (unless you really love the bus).
Yes, I get it. Money isn’t everything. I also know that money doesn’t necessarily translate to happiness. But I don’t have to tell you that being poor isn’t necessarily going to make you happy either. All things equal, wherever you’re at is going to be better with some cash to make it feel a little more cush.
If life is throwing a lot shitballs your way, it might be a good time to put some money in the bank or fluff up that 401k. Money isn’t going to solve all your problems. However, money does solve a lot of problems. So, when all else fails a little focusing on being really, really rich isn’t going to hurt – and it just might help a lot.
A solid money vibe and a healthy bank balance is always in style. Don’t let being sad, lonely, angry, anxious, or confused distract you from your cash. Cash that’s getting attention tends to grow. More money is never ever a bad thing.
3. If you don’t mind it doesn’t matter.
Seriously, very few things are actually worth giving a shit about.
I know it seems like very-single-thing is code red, but trust me it’s not. Your life is probably not really on fire, so you can stop running around acting like you’re putting one out.
Are you breathing?
Are you currently NOT being chased by a bear?
If you answered yes to those two questions, everything is really ok right now.
Most of us are suffering from “caring way too much fatigue”. It’s a chronic debilitating self-induced mental disorder.
Sometimes you’ve got to just say no. In fact, we’d probably be better off if we said no more often than not.
No to the worry.
No to the stress.
No to giving two hot shits about things you can’t control.
Things aren’t working out?
Stop giving it shit.
Seriously, it’s as simple as that.
Let it go.
In spiritual circles, we would call it releasing resistance. Outside of the bubble of metaphysical drumming circles, we would call it, “fuck it”.
It’s a sacred mantra that will set you free.
4. Sometimes the way you look is the easiest or even only thing you can control.
You are never going to regret wearing your sexiest bra and panties.
You are never going to think things might have gone better if you hadn’t taken a shower or put your makeup on.
When the world doesn’t make sense, your wardrobe decisions can still be on point. Getting it all put together when you walk out the door might be the gateway to some legit self-care.
Sure, it might seem shallow. We’ve all been told beauty is only skin deep. That’s why I’m not talking about trying to look like a cover-model. I’m talking about being the very best version of yourself in whatever moment you’re having – and I know, not all moments are created equal, so looking your best is going to vary from time to time
When you’re rocking it on the outside it’s a lot easier to feel majestic as fuck – and that’s powerful.
5. Bragging is basically do-it-yourself therapy.
An adolescent version of a brag is pointing out you’re the best, implying obviously, other people aren’t as good as you.
The “humble brag” on social media is a perfectly designed post to make it look like you’re not still feeling like desperate teenager counting likes as if they are party invites.
A grown woman bragging delights in the absolute unspeakable glory of being herself, thus making room for other women to do the same.
Bragging is good for the soul – and it takes practice. It’s crazy-uncomfortable at first to acknowledge out loud how absolutely amazing you are or what a blissed-out life you’ve created. However, the more you practice, the better you feel.
And here’s a secret, there is no harm in bragging even when you feel like a total loser. Sometimes you’ve got to speak some awesome into existence.
I mean basically, therapy is about recovering your self-esteem or identity most of the time. So, why not just start digging yourself out on your own by practicing being fully transparent with your splendor.
And it’s a public service. It’s like holding the door of awesome open for other women to walk through. So, brag it up – really. It’s a hell of a lot sexier than being self-deprecating or insecure.
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Lisa Hayes, The Love Whisperer, is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan.
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