By: Priya Khajuria – Confluence Daily is your daily news source for women in the know.
What should you do when you feel less than stellar?
What to do when you say the words “I’m grateful” or “thank you” and find that you’re feeling absolutely nothing on the inside?
How do you boost your vibes back up to really feeling it?
We’ve all been there at some point in time… when you not only just aren’t feeling it, but even the word “gratitude” makes you feel sick.
…And everyone who’s overflowing with gratitude and sunshine just seems revolting.
Even the sunniest of us feel down sometimes. That’s life and part of being human. Moving out of heavier vibrations call for what Abraham and Joshua (non-physical teachers) advise:
(1) Reduce your limiting beliefs and (2) boost your beneficial beliefs.
Joshua (channeled by Gary Bodley) suggests a very interesting thing: that when you feel bad you begin to attract bad feeling thoughts (rather than the other way around). Hence – do what you can ASAP to feel good, and the good-feeling thoughts will come!
Reducing limiting beliefs that arise which do not serve you, and boosting the beneficial beliefs that do serve you, is a powerful way to address and move through unpleasant emotions.
In other words, when thoughts arise that make you feel rotten, do what you can to kick those suckers to the curb and start right now – in this moment – to look for and do anything that feels good. Start with slightly better, and work your way up, one wee bit at a time.
Our natural state is one of ease, wellness, and love.
Noticing when your vibration isn’t matching up with words of gratitude is the first step to move through it, so good on you when you notice that!
When you feel that disconnect, it’s usually a “mind” thing – you’re likely spending too much time in your mind, resisting or reacting, and allowing yourself to become overwhelmed instead of allowing life’s daily flow. Oh, so easy to say, right? But how to turn this around?
How DO you get back on the path quickly to feeling grateful?
Here are 4 quick and easy steps to get back that loving feeling:
1. Do whatever you can in the moment to feel good.
You know what those things are for yourself:
- Read something spiritual or uplifting or fun.
- Go dancing or find an empty room and put on some music.
- Spend a few minutes in nature.
- Call a fun friend or a high-vibing loved one for a chat.
- Watch a comedy or funny movie.
- Create an enjoyable meal.
- Spend time with a beloved pet.
Do whatever works for you.
Tip: Put together a few different playlists on your smartphone and have them handy:
- Your best fun tunes (separate playlists for morning and evening)
- Meditation or mindfulness audios
2. Try the Gratitude Walk.
With each left step, say in your mind “thank” and with each right step, say “you.” You’ll be chanting thank you in your mind with each set of steps. By the way, if you’re feeling really mad, sad or bad, it’s okay. Allow and honour those emotions and let off some steam if you have to. I’ve sometimes started off my gratitude walk saying “fuck that!” with each step!!! And then once it peters out, it’s easier to blow out a deep breath and play with the gratitude words.
When you do start the gratitude words and your emotions begin to catch up, it may seem so simple and silly you find yourself smiling. That’s good! Smiling means your vibration is rising. And silly can be fun!
This might seem overly simple at first, but take a look at what’s happening…
Walking, in itself, can be a contemplative experience.
And as you focus on saying each word with each step, you narrow your mental focus to these specific words.
Combining the words and an inner state with physical action is similar to what is known in NLP as anchoring.
This focus, fused with the rhythm of walking, creates a walking meditation.
Meditation has countless techniques and the classic format of chanting Om and eliminating thoughts is but only one of those techniques. Meditation is really the art of focus.
Abraham and Joshua, and of course many spiritual teachers in the physical plane, believe in the power of meditation. For very good reason – the focus in any type of meditation creates a type of incredibly powerful mental exercise. All of which are the power tools of conscious creators!
3. Try the ‘Pono Walk.
This is based on Ihaleakala Hew Len’s version of the Hawaiian practice of Ho’oponopono, which is a form of mental rebalancing to put things right by taking 100% responsibility.
It consists of four phrases:
- I’m sorry (repentance to yourself and others for any harm or self-neglect)
- Please forgive me (asking of forgiveness from yourself or others for any harm or self-neglect)
- Thank you (gratitude to self and others)
- I love you (love to self and others)
The Hawaiian spiritual teacher Mahealani Kuamo’o-Henry (also known as Aunty) shares that the original and ancient intent of Hoʻoponopono is to release fear-based thinking and accept and embrace your self-best and self-greatness.
I generally use the last two phrases:
Similar to the Gratitude Walk, say “Thank you” with each left step, and “I love you” with each right step. But, by all means, if you are drawn to all four phrases, please use them
4. Rock the Coue.
Émile Coué was a French psychologist and pharmacist who encouraged his patients to use self-suggestion with the powerful healing phrase “Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better.” He recommended that patients repeat this line many times through the day to override an unwelcome state of mind with a desired state.
I have found that this mantra works extremely well when you’re experiencing incredible pressure or stress in your life, or are in a state of despair. Just the act of repeating this mantra over and over while you’re walking in nature has an immediate calming and soothing effect.
You can also extrapolate it from the baseline in the ways that suit you or spring to mind, i.e. “Every day, in every way, I am getting healthier and healthier. Every day, in every way, I allow myself to be more and more loving. Every day, in every way, I am getting fitter and fitter.” etc. you get the point.
Self-love, self-care and doing any of the walks will raise your vibes very quickly. You’ll be surprised just how easy it is to slip back into a state of gratitude and ease. It might not start off easy, so be kind to yourself as you navigate and experiment with any way to leverage yourself up, one step at a time.
Try these exercises and see which you love using. Or customize them as you like in whatever way makes you feel good. I’ve used all of them for different situations – they work!
Priya creates award-winning free Law of Attraction Games for the LOA Facebook community, helping them embrace and enhance their true inner beauty and divine manifesting abilities through experiential play. Players of her Games have boosted their self-image, self-confidence and manifested trips, jobs, money, reclaimed their lives and more.
She is the author of the LOA primer The Law of Attraction Game Book: 28 Days of Love.
Priya lives in Toronto, Canada with her family and when not playing LOA Games or scarfing up LOA-anything with red wine, can be found creating meditations and music.
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