By: Lisa Cavallaro – Confluence Daily is your daily news source for women in the know.
People speed. That’s what they do. We drive fast ourselves sometimes. So we won’t get down on speeders.
Speeders have a good idea where they can get away with it, and where they can’t. I can think of one spot in particular where I was ticketed. Police sit nearby on the regular. But they won’t catch me again, because I learned I can’t get away with it there.
My husband received two speeding tickets at different times in one county. He was gifted with two large fines, and the second one came with a costly mandate to take safe driving classes. So, after two lawyer bills, two fines, time and money spent on classes, he no longer speeds in that county.
Bullying is a lot like speeding. People learn where they can get away with it and more importantly… where they can’t.
Kids don’t need the police, fines, lawyers or classes to teach bullies they can’t mess with them. What they do need is confidence in who they are. They need the kind of confidence that stands firm when others don’t approve.
Kids don’t automatically feel good about themselves, just because we think they have every reason to. No doubt the goodness and greatness are within them, but difficult for kids to see when outside influences continually remind them they’re not enough.
This is a tall order for adults who care about kids, but here it is:
If we want kids to feel good about themselves, feel like they matter and know they’re enough, then we’re going to have to step up and become MAJOR influencers in their lives.
How do we do it? We make our message louder and clearer than the messages kids receive through social media and their peers.
Not easy. But if we want our kids to feel the kind of confidence that stands firm in the face of bullies, then this is our work.
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Lisa Cavallaro, The Confidence Coach, is an LOA Coach with a solution-focused spin on bullying. She helps parents leverage Law of Attraction to raise kids who are self-confident and have a positive outlook toward peers, school and life. Lisa is the author of No More Drama and ADHD The Natural Way.
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