Top Five Myths About A Breakup
By: Lisa M. Hayes – Confluence Daily is your daily news source for women in the know.
A BREAKUP ALMOST ALWAYS TURNS OUT TO BE THE BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED.
The reality of it is, almost everyone one of us will go through a breakup, probably many of them. Very few of us spend our lives with our first love. It’s an inevitable part of life.
Here are my top five myths about breaking up.
- Our relationship failed. Probably not. Chances are high your relationship ran a natural course. It started, it happened, and it ended. It doesn’t mean anything or anyone failed.
- There has to be a good enough reason. Men are pretty good at just walking away from a relationship because it seems like it’s over to them. Women on the other hand, feel like they need a good enough reason. Maybe it’s abuse or an affair. Maybe it’s just holding out until the fighting is finally unbearable. Not being happy is a good enough reason to end a relationship. No other excuse needed. You don’t need a hall pass.
- Someone has to be right and someone has to be wrong. Nope. No one has to be either. There doesn’t have to be a villain or a victim. No one has to take sides. You can just have two people who go their separate ways.
- Breaking up is hard to do. Sometimes. Sometimes not. I’ve had some pretty traumatic breakup experiences. I’ve had some that simply weren’t. Sometimes the breaking up process started weeks or months before the actual break up even began, so by the time it’s happened, the healing is mostly over. Making up a story about how hard it has to be isn’t necessary. A break up is a blank slate. Treat it as such.
- It has to be permanent. It doesn’t. Now I am not a fan of “we’re taking a break.” I think that’s a recipe for disaster. Be in or be out. However, sometimes after people get out, they get back in. They get some space, some perspective, or some maturity and realize they really do love each other. No one ever really knows how things roll between two hearts and that’s OK. Needing to know the end of the story can ruin a good book. Just let it be what it is today, and if it’s over, it’s over, for now, or forever. Stay away from absolutes.
The bottom line is this, it’s way better to be single and fabulous on your own than it is to settle for a relationship that isn’t everything you dreamed it would be.
So if you’re having a Springtime break up, shake up, I’ll say congratulations!
Onward and upward. Summer is right around the corner.
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Lisa is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan.
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