By: Lisa M. Hayes – Confluence Daily is your daily news source for women in the know.
Play with a goal that feels way out of range – the Universe loves the unlikely
Go big. Like really big. The Universe does not like to dance with boring desires.
Sometimes when a goal feels just out of reach, but probably doable, it’s easy to get caught up in the how it’s going to get done spin cycle in your brain. The dreaded “how-to’s” can be a real vibe killer. A close-up goal can be harder to reach than something wildly unlikely.
Playing with a wild dream, something you might not actually believe could ever happen can be just the medicine for lifting your vibrational set point and to get you moving in the vibrational direction of other things you want a lot more joyfully. This happens not despite the fact that you don’t believe it, but because you don’t believe it’s doable.
You’re looking for a childlike willingness to make-believe and play with a possibility that lights you up just thinking about it. Key word is PLAY. For example, if you want to be a best-selling author, you could spend time playing with the fantasy of being a best-selling author with a show on the Oprah network, who routinely rubs elbows at Sunday picnics with Oprah and her other besties.
By over-shooting your goal with your creative imagination, you are very likely to upgrade your vibration without even know it, moving in the direction you want to go, without as much resistance as you might have if your monkey mind thought it was really possible. More importantly though, the Universe likes to play with wild desires that inspire joyful abandon and passion.
Plan for the worst-case scenario – because let’s face it, it could happen
If you’re worried about it, sometimes the easiest way to navigate your way through resistance is to know in advance what you’d do if everything falls apart. Sure, a savvy deliberate creator knows better than to focus on an undesirable outcome. However, if you’ve got a nagging “what if” vibration that you can’t seem to deactivate, you’re better off to address it head-on than you are to pretend it’s not there and move forward with a fake smiley face.
Making a plan for the worst-case scenario usually shuts the gremlins up. It gives you ammunition to tell them to pipe down while you’re focused on where you actually want to go.
The unthinkable is almost always more manageable than you think it is when you’re hiding from it. You might not like a worst-case outcome, but knowing what you’d do if you lose your job, your house goes into foreclosure, or your marriage tanks gives you a certain amount of control over your anxiety. When you have a plan in place you can move forward knowing that you can get a handle on things and start over no matter what goes down.
From there, with a plan in place, resistance is less likely to get a foothold in your manifesting game because you won’t be drowning in the what if’s of things not working out. If it all falls apart you might start from nothing and rebuild. You might have to move in with your parents to do it, but you won’t die. It’s that simple.
Forget trying to be worthy – asshats and slackers often get what they want
Seriously, so many of us are trying to be worthy of the things we want.
We want to be worthy of love.
We want to be worthy of success.
We want to be worthy of attention and connection.
However, I’m going to let you in on a little secret. Worthiness is a fools distraction. Lots of people that seem lazy or really horrible get exactly everything they want without getting hung up on an imaginary point system of worthiness. They come in feeling entitled and take home all the big prizes while others are too busy to notice the game is over because they are fighting to prove their worthiness.
Entitlement is way more powerful fuel for deliberate creation than worthiness can ever be. If you’re trying to win a worthiness game your basically assuming you aren’t good enough until you do more. You have to earn your way into heaven or your dream job. That is not the way the system works and some people already know that. They are the ones that seem spoiled or super-fucking lucky.
If you show up fully entitled you can save your energy to enjoy the prizes life lavishes on you rather than dragging yourself exhausted over worthiness threshold only to learn someone moved the finish line and you’ve still got more race to run. If you think you’re not good enough as you were born, you’ll never fully be able to convince yourself you’ve done enough to get the things you want.
Lisa is an LOA Relationship Coach. She helps clients leverage Law of Attraction to get the relationships they dream about and build the lives they want. Lisa is the author of the newly released hit book, Score Your Soulmate and How to Escape from Relationship Hell and The Passion Plan.
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