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Reading Time: 3 minutes When you are involved with someone who’s been some sort of presence in your life and that person simply disappears, that is ghosting.

Maybe you had a couple of dates and texted frequently, and then it just stops without explanation. Maybe you were in a relationship that seemed to be on track for something more, and your partner quits returning calls or showing up without actually breaking up with you. They just disappear. It’s the kind of disappearing act that initially makes you think they may be unconscious in a hospital somewhere.

Today I heard a new phrase. Zombie. When your partner goes zombie, that means they haven’t cut off communication entirely. However, they aren’t showing up to be in the relationship at all. They might answer a text if you’re asking a question. However, they don’t initiate contact and have obviously disappeared in all other ways. This kind of disconnect makes you wonder if you’ve been dumped but leaves you hanging on thinking something else must be going on.

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July 11, 2018 Confluence

How to Fix a Boring Relationship: Inquiring Reader Wants to Know

Reading Time: 3 minutes If all you have to talk about is dry cleaning and bills you should make it a priority to be doing or learning something interesting to bring to the table. The first step to fixing anything always starts with you. In this case, the fixing is fun. Basically, you probably need to be having more fun so you have some of that kind of energy to inject into your relationship.

Waiting for your relationship to relieve your boredom will never work. You have to be the spark that starts the fire.

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June 18, 2018 Confluence

Are You Bored With Your Marriage?

Reading Time: 2 minutes Don’t put your happiness or your satisfaction on hold waiting for someone else to change. Don’t make your spouse responsible for your passion. Don’t let your love get stale, or altogether rotten while you’re too disconnected to do anything about it. Doing something, anything, do everything you can. Why? Because trust me, it’s easier than divorce. Breaking up is very, hard to do. Harder than you probably think it would be.

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June 12, 2018 Confluence

It’s Not You It’s Me – The Civilized Guide To Breakups

Reading Time: 3 minutes “In the time we’ve spent together I’ve really come to appreciate what a great person you are. This is the very reason I feel you deserve more than I am really able to put into this. I just don’t feel my head or heart is in this relationship the way it should be. Because of that I know as hard as this is, it’s time for me to end this. At some point maybe we can reconnect as friends, but for now, I think we really need some time completely apart to adjust to this. It’s going to be hard for both of us.”