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Your Friend The Kegel: Natural Solutions For Urinary Incontinence

Your Friend The Kegel:  Natural Solutions For Urinary Incontinence
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By: Sarah Grace Powers – Confluence Daily is your daily news source for women in the know.

Shh! It’s embarrassing! But there – I said it:  urinary incontinence.

Isn’t it strange that a condition that affects up to a third of all women, especially those over 40, is such a hush-hush topic?

Well let’s face it, no one wants to talk about the tendency to pee their pants whenever they hear a good joke.

Most women are too embarrassed to even mention this to their doctors. Especially if it’s only a once-in-a-while problem. And so we continue to suffer in silence, and worse – sometimes we even suppress our healing laughter for fear of the consequences.

It’s not just laughing of course; coughing, sneezing, movements like jumping and dancing can release some of that tightly held bladder control.

This is known as ‘stress’ or ‘giggle’ incontinence and is the most common form of this unwelcome condition.

You’re Not Alone

I decided to write about this to get this thing more out in the open – and to spread the word about some of (relatively) easy fixes for the problem (depending, of course, on the degree of intensity.) It’s been an on and off problem in my own life for years—and got way worse during perimenopause and menopause.

And I’m just like everyone else – usually too embarrassed to discuss it, even with my friends.

That potty training shame goes deep apparently.

Urinary incontinence affects 10-35 percent of all women, with 35 billion American women throwing down cash for pads and treatments. In fact, more menstrual pads are sold for incontinence than for menstruation!

Symptoms vary from the occasional drip now and then, to needing a drawer full of Depends. For most, this condition fluctuates throughout the reproductive cycle.

Causes of urinary incontinence

Loss of hormonal support in the vagina and lower urinary tract at midlife can be a culprit for many women. Others notice the onset of urinary incontinence after giving birth. Sometimes neurological disorders can result in incontinence.

If this is something you’ve been keeping secret, it’s time to let go of the shame. You’re not alone in this, really and truly, so don’t be afraid to talk to your doctor or health practitioner. Believe me, he or she has heard it before!

The severity of my own urinary incontinence seems to ebb and wane, and now that I’ve done a little research and begun implementing some fixes, it’s definitely more on the wane – and it can be for you too!

Turn Off The Drip

The good news is that at least 80% of women who battle urinary incontinence can regain almost normal control through natural means. The number one way to turn this thing around is by practicing the good old Kegel. Add in a few other lifestyle changes, plus perhaps a few herbal teas, and your laundry needs may lessen.

1) Do Your Kegels

Most of us learned about these famous exercises (named for the gynecologist Arnold Kegel who invented them in 1948) while we were pregnant – or while a friend was pregnant. Turns out, we’d have been better off if we’d kept up the practice in the years of raising the kids. (I know, I know, they told us to do that – but who really kept on Kegeling once their baby was crawling?

Kegels strengthen the muscles of the vagina, pelvic floor, and urethra, allowing more control over the release of urine. Plus, there’s the added benefit that toning all of these muscles can increase sexual pleasure (always a welcome prospect at midlife!)

Now, I’ve known for years that I ‘should’ do more Kegels to address this intermittent issue of minor pants peeing – but I’d always forget. Then I got serious, read up on them again and boy was I glad because I realized I’d kind of forgotten how to do them. Or maybe there’s an update on the system, but yeah – it makes a difference to pay attention to the correct practice of the Kegel.


Squeeze your vaginal muscles (the same ones you would use to halt the flow of urine) and hold for a slow count of ten. Relax for five seconds and then repeat. Best if you do five sets of these at least three times a day. It’s important to clench only the vaginal muscles – you can practice while urinating to see which ones they are. Kegels don’t work the same if you are contracting other muscles at the same time (such as abdominal or buttock muscles) so it takes some practice to get this right.

Dr. Kegel advised five clenches before getting out of bed, five more once up and then five every half hour throughout the day – that’s a lot! Even 10 a day will help. Studies have shown women who do 40 a day for three months have controlled or cured their incontinence.

Silly to skip it really, since it only takes about a few minutes out of our day – plus you can actually do other things while you are doing your Kegels, at least once you get the hang of it. But – if you’re a bit absent-minded like me – how to remember?

Well, I got this nifty new intention setting app for my phone, so now I set it to chime at me every day at a specific time with the simple words: KEGEL! My inner child loves this.

If that sounds a little ridiculous to you, just find a way to remind yourself each day. Those little notes placed in conspicuous places work for a while – until you forget to notice them. That’s when it’s time to move the note to another location.

Soon the habit will be built. The trick is to actually do the Kegels AS SOON AS you see the reminder. Otherwise, well you know. It’s gone again.

This simple technique is often all that is needed to curtail urinary incontinence. Try Kegeling religiously for 30 days and note the difference.

If the improvement isn’t enough for you, or you want to do even more, there are other options to dealing with this pain in the you-know-what.

2) Kegel Exercise Weights

As the name implies, this is billed as an improvement on the plain old Kegel. I’ve never tried them, but Dr. Christiane Northrup talks them up in her book, The Wisdom of Menopause , so who am I to argue? It’s based on an ancient Chinese technique (and that was probably about more than treating incontinence!)

Basically, these are cone-shaped weights that you insert and hold in place at least five minutes twice a day, gradually increasing your time to 15 minutes. Northrup says the cones allow you to automatically use the correct muscles. If you’re using these consistently, you can expect improvement within 4-6 weeks. You can find some here.

2) Find the Pattern, Keep a Record

Almost as important as the Kegel is to find out what circumstances and/or substances exacerbate the problem. Use a special notebook or datebook to record when you experience incontinence, how severe it is, foods or activities that preceded the problem.

Sometimes just an awareness of the triggers can help you to get rid of the problem.

3) Cut back or eliminate the caffeine

Everyone’s least favorite recommendation (well at least some of us.) Yet, unfortunately, caffeinated beverages are bladder irritants. So, if urinary incontinence is a serious problem in your life you might want to see how it goes if you at least reduce how many cups of coffee and tea, or sodas you drink in the day.

4) Add in the unsweetened cranberry juice.

This stuff is like a magic healing bladder potion. I’ve seen so many women heal bladder infections simply by drinking cranberry juice. But I’m not talking about that sweetened stuff. You have to get the bottle that specifies “pure and unsweetened” on the label. But don’t drink it straight! Dilute about 2 tablespoons per 8 ounces of water – and drink as much as you can during the day. Cleansing and refreshing!

If this just doesn’t float your boat, you can also purchase cranberry in capsule form.

5) Make friends with a Dandelion – root that is.

Dandelion root is known to tighten the bladder sphincter. Try it as a tea (use raw rather than roasted roots), or as a tincture or in capsules.

6) Smooth your urinary tract with herbal allies.

Certain herbs and foods have a ‘mucilagenous’ quality which coats and soothes the urinary tract. Not only can these work to prevent dribbles, they will also strengthen the area to prevent bladder and urinary infections. Try corn silk, flax seeds, goldenrod, marshmallow or plantain leaf.

7) Create healthy relationship boundaries

Natural approaches only go so far to alleviate midlife pelvic problems such as urinary incontinence. It’s crucial to take a look at underlying emotional issues, which in the case of the pelvic region often have to do with your need to reclaim your own individuality and creative power. This can often mean getting more assertive about your boundaries with others.

If this notion is ringing some bells in your psyche, I suggest you claim some time to look within and meditate on how such a change could look in your life. (You can even do a few Kegels while you’re doing this!


Please note: if your incontinence is severe, painful or appears to be due to an infection, get yourself to a medical professional for an examination.

I hope you got in a few Kegels while reading this! Even if incontinence is not a problem for you, Kegels are still your friend for life!


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Sarah Grace Powers is a certified life coach and EFT Practitioner. She is a ‘dream resuscitator’, helping clients rediscover their passions and reinvent themselves no matter what their age or circumstance. In her previous career she owned and operated an herb shop and has practiced holistic living for over three decades. Find her at



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