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April 20, 2018 Confluence

What You Need to Know When a Man Asks for Space

Reading Time: 2 minutesAs hard as it, the rule of thumb here is when a man asks for space, give him all the space in the world. In other words, end it on the spot. It might feel counterintuitive. It might feel like the request for space indicates trouble that you need to fix. However, your best chance of fixing anything is making certain that he gets his question answered, “What would my life be without her?” He needs to know what he’d be missing, by actually missing it.

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April 17, 2018 Confluence

What A Bully’s Words REALLY Mean

Reading Time: 3 minutesLet’s face it… no one deserves to be disrespected by another person. But unfortunately, it does happen and when it does, we need to be smart. If we’re not, there’s a good chance we’ll forever be the perfect targets of more bully behavior.

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April 17, 2018 Confluence

Why Unification Is The Death Of A Marriage

Reading Time: 2 minutesPersonally, I do not want to become half of some amalgamated union. I want to feel desire and devotion for my beloved. Not obligation and or responsibility. That said, I cannot desire him, if I honestly see him as an extension of myself. A relationship is bigger when two people bring their whole selves to it and breath fresh air through, when the space they take up forces the relationship to expand. Relationships do not feed themselves.

People need their own time, hobbies, friends, and money. They need to flourish and grow alone so the relationship itself doesn’t stagnate. I believe one of the most accurate measurements of a healthy relationship is how much two people encourage each other to grow individually. Yes, that takes courage, but the pay off personally is huge, so it’s both altruistic and selfish at the same time.

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April 13, 2018 Confluence

Help Me, FIX my PARTNER ….Cause, I’ve Got My Shit Together

Reading Time: 4 minutesI have learned all too well, the anguish, hurt, disgust, and unspoken, gut-wrenching tension this mindset brings to a relationship. It hurts, and it creates walls of division and fear in our relationships.

Everyone must run their own race in life, and it’s not your place to own your partner’s race. This removes the beauty of growth and love for them and leaves you emotionally drained and tired.

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April 11, 2018 Confluence

You are Never Powerless

Reading Time: 2 minutesWhen you are being a hurt by another person the only person who can make that stop is you. You always have the power. You are never powerless to stop your own suffering. You can always change your thoughts or change your situation.

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April 10, 2018 Confluence

Easy Way To Help Another Parent Get Their Message Across

Reading Time: 3 minutesAfter hearing her mom’s message reinforced by a complete stranger, hopefully, the message actually sank into the girl’s brain. Hopefully, now this girl is owning the great qualities she possesses and truly believes she’s successful, amazing and full of great energy.

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April 9, 2018 Confluence

A Simple Hack for More Relationship Intimacy that Requires Zero Extra Time

Reading Time: 3 minutesAsking a better question doesn’t take any more time than asking a low-quality question. There’s no excuse not to up your game.
Curiosity is sexy.
It’s also really hard to fake.

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April 9, 2018 Confluence

My fiance has asked me to watch porn with him, and I’m curious, but uncomfortable. I haven’t watched porn before. What should I do?

Reading Time: 3 minutesYour fiance is asking you to try something that he enjoys, probably so that you can enjoy it together. It’s a good sign when a partner wants to share what excites them.

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April 3, 2018 Confluence

Some Conversations Are Hard – Even For Adults

Reading Time: 3 minutesWe don’t want to hurt anyone, so we speak to everyone.
We speak up without getting too specific. We play it safe hoping the people who need to hear our message will get it, and they won’t be embarrassed by the delivery.

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April 2, 2018 Confluence

My partner and I can talk about almost anything. We’ve always had good communication. However, after three years, I still find it very difficult to talk to him about sex.

Reading Time: 2 minutesIt is very common for adults to have a tough time asking for their desires, but it still troubles me if two people who have spent years of time together aren’t able to feel comfortable enough for one to say to another: “I’ve realized that I’m craving some spontaneity around our sex.”