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March 5, 2020 Confluence

On getting rid of jealousy

Reading Time: 4 minutesWhen you’re jealous you can’t control your thoughts about your partner wanting someone else, having sex with someone else, or leaving you. Every woman or man that your partner looks at, talks to or talks about becomes a potential threat to you and you scan every room the two of you enter for those threats.

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February 27, 2020 Confluence

On Partners Trying to Accept Stripping

Reading Time: 5 minutesAs a longtime public, stripper, I often receive contact from other women in the adult industries who are navigating dating and sex work and experiencing jealousy from their partners. What follows is two examples of folks who recently wrote to me and feeling unsupported and invalidated by their boyfriends.

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February 12, 2020 Confluence

Marriage doesn’t have to be the place where desire goes to die

Reading Time: 4 minutesMarriage doesn’t have to be be the place where desire goes to die.

Married women, withholding and controlling sex is hurting you, not just him.

It’s denying yourself of his medicine.

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February 11, 2020 Confluence

Trae Crowder: That Couple Who Never Left Your Hometown

Reading Time: < 1 minuteTHAT COUPLE WHO NEVER LEFT YOUR HOMETOWN. Meet Brad and Ashlee, that couple who never left. Fire off in the comments if you know these folks.

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February 5, 2020 Confluence

Sex and Disability: Resources for physically disabled folks

Reading Time: 4 minutesA key to understanding the intersection of sex and disability is understanding disability theory. Disability theory is complex and nuanced, but essentially: all disabled people are different, our needs are different, our needs deserve to be met, and that we are not a burden. The onus for unlearning ableism, such as unfavorable conceptions, or treatment of disabled people is on abled people.”

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January 24, 2020 Confluence

5 Habits of Self-sabotage to Stop Now

Reading Time: 4 minutesDROP THE EXCUSES. YOU’LL BE GLAD YOU DID.

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January 15, 2020 Confluence

I don’t know if I’m normal or not; I love to orgasm, but only when I masturbate alone.

Reading Time: 2 minutesBeing around other people can stimulate cortisol production for several reasons. It could be due to stress or worry about being judged (what if I make a funny face?), if you’re an introvert, or if you have traumatic memories that are associated with man partners or sexual play.

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January 10, 2020 Confluence

Parenting Podcast: The Right Kind of Bubble Wrap: Thoughts on Letting Go

Reading Time: 2 minutes“It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings.”

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January 8, 2020 Confluence

ON GETTING WHAT WE WANT

Reading Time: 3 minutesWhen we feel like we need to compete for our place, say in our career or with relationships or any of the things we think we need to make us happy, we can get single-minded. We can push and compare and tear ourselves and others apart over and over until we have nothing left but fear and isolation. Because even if you do get to the top or are considered “the best,” nothing really changes. Your mind just looks for the next thing it thinks it needs to find security.

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December 26, 2019 Confluence

Is a zero f*cks approach really possible?

Reading Time: 3 minutesThis is much easier to write about than to practice – I fully admit that. I’ve lost whole days to being absorbed by whether or not I possibly offended someone. Yet, I am a very bland incarnation of myself when I care so much, so I will choose to push on and maybe I can drop a fuck or two every day until this whole thing becomes a little less painful, a little less excruciating, and maybe in the best way, a little less safe.