How to Choose Your Own Adventure
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Cindie Chavez ©2019
Last week I wrote about New Year’s Resolutions, and why they usually don’t stick. (Hint: the timing is off.)
This week I want to nudge you to ask yourself if those changes you want to make might feel a bit easier now that Spring has sprung, the weather is warming up, and perhaps you’re ready to come out of hibernation.
With Aries season upon us (March 20-April 20), the astrological calendar begins anew and it’s a powerful time to make changes.
Making a change is usually easier said than done, because for the most part we humans hate change. Change can be scary and uncertain and much of the time it’s just easier to stay where we are – in our comfort zone.
(Sidenote: “Comfort Zones” are usually anything but comfortable.)
At times it seems easier to make excuses, stay where we are, and settle for less than what we truly desire. And most of the excuses we make will be putting the blame on someone or something else, as if we don’t have agency, as if we don’t have choices.
But we do have choices. We get to write our own story. We get to choose our own adventure! And this is the perfect time of year to get moving in a new direction, to write a new chapter.
If you’re feeling ready for something new, but feeling stuck because change feels hard, here are five ideas that will help your first steps toward making a change be a bit easier.
- HALT – this is the acronym for Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired. Even though these feelings are often catalysts for wanting a change, it’s best not to make any major decisions while in the thick of these feelings. First: eat, cool down, phone a friend, and get some rest. Then take some time to get quiet, have a heartfelt discussion with yourself, and decide what changes you’d like to make.
- Be willing to take imperfect action. Perfectionism will only hold you back. It’s important to understand that “imperfect action” does not mean “phoning it in” or being okay with shoddy workmanship – nobody wants a reputation for doing a crappy job. But it’s okay to take the first step and let it be good enough. Don’t let an all or nothing (perfection or bust) attitude keep you from making a change. Do what you can. One step at a time.
- Cultivate inspiration, instead of motivation. Looking ahead to the outcome of the change we’d like to make is inspiring – and inspiration provides the fuel to pull us into that intended future. Motivation, on the other hand, is often attached to avoiding something we don’t want – it can be effective, but personally I’d rather be pulled forward by an inspiring vision, than chased forward by the monster of what I don’t want.
- Know what delights you. The simple pleasures of life that create a sense of joy and wonder can be found anywhere, if we remember to look for them. Think back to when you were a child. What delighted you then, and how can you cultivate some of that joy in your life now as an adult? Being able to tap into delight on a regular basis is healing and energizing, and especially important during times of change.
- Remember that life has an ebb and flow, like the tides, the seasons, and the phases of the moon – all of nature has a rhythm, and we are part of nature. Our lives have seasons and a natural rhythm. The only constant in nature is change! Change is inevitable, so why not initiate the changes you desire?
You are a powerful creator, and you get to choose your own adventure! Be brave and take a step in a new exciting direction. Now is the time!
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Cindie Chavez is known as “The Love & Magic Coach”. She is the creator of MOONTREAT™ – and she has some great free stuff for you at her website: www.cindiechavez.com
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