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October 11, 2019 Confluence

But, Does He Like Me??

Reading Time: 4 minutes When you genuinely enjoy your own company enough that you’re seriously hesitant to give it up, it’s probably a good indicator you highly value yourself and your time. Then and only then are you truly ready to date and lined up to attract someone amazing who will be really stoked you put your time in to be ready for them.

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August 12, 2019 Confluence

The Scary Thing You Have To Do If You Want To Be Loved Unconditionally

Reading Time: 3 minutes By: Lisa M. Hayes – Confluence Daily is your daily news source for women in the know. YOU’VE GOT TO GET NAKED, BUT

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August 29, 2018 Confluence

5 Habits of Unhappy Couples and How to Avoid Them

Reading Time: 4 minutes Show me a couple where thank yous don’t flow liberally between them and I’ll show you a couple that has a lot of resentments lurking just under the surface.

Politeness and appreciation are the two things that make the day to day business of sharing a bathroom sink and a closet with someone doable.

Appreciation tends to flow very easily at the beginning of a relationship. However, as the newness starts to wear off, appreciation can drift to other things. The problem is, you get what you focus on. When you quit focusing on appreciation you find fewer and fewer things to appreciate.

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August 28, 2018 Confluence

How to Stay Married

Reading Time: 3 minutes If you are committed to staying married, and you are less happy than you want to be, that’s not normal and it’s not ok. The good news is it’s probably mendable because you can learn the skills it takes to be in a relationship. Sooner is better than later, because sometimes later is too late. Waiting too long might not mean divorce. There is a fate far, far worse than divorce. Waiting too long may mean spending the rest of your life in a soulless, loveless, lifeless marriage, and that is a recipe for slow, early death.

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August 27, 2018 Confluence

What Management Gurus Know About Relationships

Reading Time: 3 minutes We know this stuff. I’m stating the obvious. Focus on what you want more of and you’ll get it. Focus on what you don’t want and you’ll get that too. The key in relationships is to be willing. Are you willing to let go of resentment and irritation to get more of what you want? The easy answer is yes, but in practice, it’s a little more difficult for many people. You think you’ve earned your resentments. You deserve them. People wear resentments like bad relationship merit badges, they collect them.

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August 6, 2018 Confluence

Why Sex is So Important in Relationships and Four Ways to Turn Up the Heat

Reading Time: 3 minutes Women often fall into the trap of withholding sex because they aren’t getting enough romance. They want to feel that intimate connection before they put out. However, that backfires. The act of sex increases the very neurochemical that creates the intimacy they crave.

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July 20, 2018 Confluence

Be Relentless In The Pursuit Of More

Reading Time: 2 minutes Goal setting doesn’t work because it’s are based on the innately flawed premise that you need to be different. It’s often about giving something up when chances are what you really need is more. The biggest epidemic we have as a society is chronically underfed and uninspired souls.

Listen to the whisper of your soul. It’s probably begging for more.

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July 12, 2018 Confluence

A Guide to Busting the Top 5 Bullshit “Spiritual” Myths About Relationships

Reading Time: 4 minutes By: Lisa M. Hayes – Confluence Daily is your daily news source for women in the know. 1. I can get anyone I

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July 11, 2018 Confluence

How to Fix a Boring Relationship: Inquiring Reader Wants to Know

Reading Time: 3 minutes If all you have to talk about is dry cleaning and bills you should make it a priority to be doing or learning something interesting to bring to the table. The first step to fixing anything always starts with you. In this case, the fixing is fun. Basically, you probably need to be having more fun so you have some of that kind of energy to inject into your relationship.

Waiting for your relationship to relieve your boredom will never work. You have to be the spark that starts the fire.

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June 22, 2018 Confluence

The F*ckboy Filtration System – Patented and Tested Method for Weeding Out the Man-children

Reading Time: 3 minutes When I got a bit older, I tested and patented a new system I like to call Fuckboy FiltrationTM. It’s where you ask for what you want when you want it. For example: If I didn’t feel secure, I would let the person I was dating know, and tell him what I needed to feel better. If I wanted a relationship to move forward I would outline my expectations: where I wanted things to go, when I wanted that, and what would happen if those expectations weren’t met. I even sometimes went out of my way to be terrifying, like “Hello, hi, are we dating, is it serious, it puts the lotion on its skin.”

The result? Singlehood. Glorious, powerful, elective singlehood. Also, some (lots of) crying.

The men that were spooked by these conversations faded away. Almost every time I did this I was ghosted within a month. And…I loved it. Obviously, it was frustrating at times, but I knew that I was successfully filtering out people who didn’t want what I wanted, or who just didn’t want to be with me.